A poem about falling in love.

You did it secretly, you took this heart.
With magic you did the magic.
Whether I am awake or sleeping, I stay lost.
In his thoughts, in his dreams, my soul dances.
He drives me crazy, so crazy.
Neither does he know. Nor is it his fault.
I've fallen for him. Please tell him.
Slowly, slowly in admitting his love
Sometimes in waiting for him
In his love, my soul dances.
I came here, I went there
Still I thought each moment of him wherever I went
Whether it be day or night, that he be with me
Whenever anyone speaks of him my soul dances
He drives me crazy so crazy...

Good bye is one of the hardest things I have ever had to say
Feeling so sad and broken hearted like I lost my way
Tears often falling down my face
Lord take me to a better place

I cant bear to think you have gone
In my heart it feel so wrong
Holding you in my arms then all of a sudden you are one
Will I see you again in heaven for this I long

Broken hearted and torn inside
Thinking you are still here I lied to my self
A soul mate you were to me
You and me were meant to be

Now you are gone and I am torn
Heart ake of losing you this I morn
A shooting star in the sky
Once again our lat good bye.

They say, great couples can weather all storms, so a little rain isn't going to dampen their spirits. For some couples, when it rains the clouds not only pour down water, but they bring little drops of romance. Hollywood has also capitalized on the rainy day romances by showing couples kissing in the rain, the image of Spiderman kissing Mary Jane in the rain while hanging upside down is legendary. While it is not recommended for safety reasons, there are many other rainy day activities for couples which you can do to keep yourself occupied. Do not let the rain be a spoil sport, have fun, indulge and think out of the box to take your relationship to the next level.

Indoor Activities for Couples

If you do not like to venture out on a rainy day do not despair. There are quiet a few romantic things you could do indoors, to have fun. Rainy day activities for couples when coped up indoors, with a little imagination, can be very exhilarating and romantic.

Board Games: In the great tradition of indoor fun, some board games can really help you pass the time and help you connect with your inner child. Challenge your and your partners intellect with a game of chess, if you like to be adventurous bet some hard earned money on your skills and see the game go to the next level. Monopoly can also get very interesting over some hot coffee and steaming chocolate while listening to the rain drops in the background. Wear your thinking hats and test your vocabulary with a game of scrabble. To make it interesting allow the use of curse words. One of the most interesting rainy day games for adults, if you like to heat up things, is to challenge your partner for a game of strip poker.

Movies: A great way to relax, is to watch a movie together. Select a movie which you will enjoy together. Old romantic movies seem to do the trick for most couples with their touching dialogs and a sense of fashion of the long gone era. Popcorn and wine should do the trick of setting you in the right set of mind. You could also opt for a romantic comedy. After all, they say laughter is the best medicine. Some couples are also known to enjoy horror movies in each others arms, so get your collection out and experience some chills go down your spine with thunder and rain in the background.

Cleaning: Doing a chore around the house together can forge some deep bonds between couples according to some relationship counselors. If you have some pending laundry or the attic has become messy, cleaning up can be one of your, couples rainy day activities to remember. Anyways, cleaning is on most peoples list of things to do on a rainy day and it can be one of the fun things to do when you're bored at home.

Outdoor Activities for Couples

If you and your partner have an indomitable spirit and would like to venture out even if it's raining, there are many rainy day activities for couples awaiting you. If you think a little rain never hurt anyone there are some very romantic things you could do as part of your outdoors activities.

Dancing: Head out to the club where your favorite DJ plays and dance to the tunes of some hypnotizing music. 'Going clubbing' has become one of the most written, status messages on many social networking sites, so why should you be left behind, rain or no rain have a ball.

Games: Round of pool with the juke box playing your favorite tunes in the backdrop can be very enjoyable. Include it in your list of things to do with friends on a rainy day, and if you are not into table games try bowling with your friends. A game of darts and beer at your local pub can also liven up your spirit, just make sure you have a designated driver before you let your hair loose.

One of the most romantic rainy day activities for couples is going for a long drive and park at a spot with a view. A select few choose to walk on the street, arm in arm under one umbrella, they say the thrill of being so close to the rain while not getting wet is a memory to cherish.

You must have frequented all the gourmet restaurants in your vicinity; must have had innumerous movie dates to have romantic evenings with your partner. Are you thinking of ideas for planning romantic evening for two? It need not always be plush and luxurious in a restaurant or a club. How about having a romantic evening at home? Your home can be a perfect place for you two to have a romantic evening. All that you need is creativity and some before-hand preparation. Let us assume that you are completely aware of your partner's likes and dislikes in nearly all the aspects (if not, at least try to know his favorite food and music). If you have children, do not forget to arrange for a babysitter, in advance.

Ideas for a Romantic Evening at Home

You can have the traditional romantic evening plan with food, music and wine. Cook his favorite dishes, uncork a bottle of wine, put on some light romantic music and you have created a perfect mood of having a romantic evening! Dress up specially for the occasion as he will definitely appreciate that. This is one of the most favored romantic evening ideas!

You can have an outdoor romantic dinner in your backyard. It will be a very romantic evening in the starry night. A candle light dinner tops the list of tips for a romantic evening. Wear your cocktail dress, cook his favorite food, include a variety of desserts and also good quality wine. The candle light dinner can also be followed with a dance, if you both appreciate it. Those living in apartments can plan this in their balcony.

Even cooking can be a great activity if you have to do it, together, with your beloved. Try to cook a new recipe together. It will be a lot of fun, chopping and frying and baking together along with talking and having a lot of fun. If the dish is successful, you will really enjoy having it. If not, you can always have catered food at home as an option. Here, the process is more pleasurable than the actual product!

Some good ideas for a romantic evening also include having a bubble bath or giving each other a massage. Make sure you have lot of scented oils. You can even make it more exciting by having rose petals and scented candles. This will make your evening romantic as well as a passionate one. Having a swim together is also one of the perfect romantic evening ideas.

If you both are working types, you can just spend time together, literally doing nothing, but talking. Create the mood of nostalgia by recalling the firsts in your relationship like your first date or first kiss. You can cuddle up and spend time going through old photographs, reliving those wonderful moments. You can catch up with a romantic movie or a classical romantic novel. Just spend the 'us' time together.

The whole idea in planning romantic evenings at home is to get that much needed together time. Married couples can plan romantic evenings and revive their courtship days. Try not to exaggerate things. Having a calm and peaceful time together is the keyword. Exaggeration and complication can pressurize your partner. Just allow the romance to fill the air. Do not worry whether things will work out as planned or not. They definitely will! And if they do not, your partner will appreciate your ideas and hard work. Remember to retain an element of surprise before planning a romantic evening. Follow these romantic evening ideas and have a great and memorable time together!

My love,

Ever since I met you, my life became more complete than before. There was always a dark, rainy cloud hovered over my head. Now I'm cloud free. You showed me that I shouldn't take crap from people, or listen to people gossip about others.

Everytime we talk, you always make me smile. No matter what you say, I'm happy, smiling, or giggling. Whenever you are with me, you hold me close to you and I feel safe. I don't care what people say, my safe spot is you because you won't hurt me and will always make me feel safe.

My family look at you in different way, but I see you as a sweet, gentle, kind gentleman. They'll see you differently, someday. You brought hope to me, and I will never let go of it.

Through thick or thin, hot or cold, near or far; I will always love you. No one will ever get in between us, no secrets, just truth.

I will always, and forever, love you no matter what happens.

Credits to : http://www.buzzle.com/articles/letter-to-my-love.html

1) Always Be Your "True" Self

You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your character to do things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for who you are-so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.

2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other

A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your conversations-are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and undivided attention?

Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.

3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences

Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other. It's important that your personalities are compatible.

If one views life through rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don't mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo, and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.

4) Share Similar Interest and Values

You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping, music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their individual interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.

5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together

If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to each of you, this will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your true beliefs and hope that it will all just one day fall in place-it won't. Make sure you talk about your faith honestly and openly with each other. There's a wise adage that states, "The couple that prays together, stays together."

6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple

Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades. In order to have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate each other's total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to fantasize or try to fit their mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away preconceived "ideal body type" perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner.

I remember years ago, one of my college friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man under the six-foot mark. Her preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would be paid well for playing ball-footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him-as long as he had the height, the muscles, and the billfold." Well, after many heartbreaks, shallow relationships, and adopting a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that she has been very happily married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and "has since been blessed with two wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage."

Nicolette would have missed out on the love of her life had she remained stuck with false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire, appreciate, and enjoy your companion's body temple.

7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)

Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or over-use of sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love life. Yet, unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in their relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know where you're heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending before it gets beyond mending."

In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of difference between "having sex" and "making love," just as there is a major difference between being "involved" and "being in love." The misuse of sex, just like the misuse of money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can be dangerous influences which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy and success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to each of you, and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other. Otherwise, both the sex and money issues can become major conflicts which will destroy even the deepest love.

8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families

Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with each other, some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy interaction with each other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive family members and/or dear friends their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice is not what you want to hear, examine it closely, evaluate the source, pray about it, and make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet your mate's family and closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look if there is any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a wise old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your partner has a healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same treatment-and so much more!

9) Stay Away From Negative People

It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and friends can be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be a minus. If you face unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones because of their personal insecurities, don't let them have any influence in your relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same page and decide to keep negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow together in a harmonious, healthy relationship.

10) Learn to Laugh Together

This one doesn't need much explanation-if there's no joy, there's very little hope. Laughter keeps love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little secret that works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic attraction that makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist your gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit-have fun and enjoy!

There you have it-the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your current or future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy relationship with someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!

Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America's foremost relationship consultants. She is an award-winning, bestselling author of ten popular books, including 10 Bad Choices, The Band-Aid Bond, The Sacred Bond and You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis! Dr. Grace is currently the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. If you would like to read Dr. Grace's views on many current relationship issues or to leave a comment please visit www.myhealthyloveblog.com

Credits to : http://www.buzzle.com/articles/10-easy-steps-for-a-healthy-relationship.html

There's a saying: love is an action, not a feeling. You can have strong feelings for someone for a day or a lifetime. How do you know those feelings will last? In truth, you can't know this. All you can do is act lovingly every day. Those actions will create a bond of love between you and your partner, and that will have every chance of lasting for a long time. How do you act on love? Here are some ways to start.

Service

I was recently asked why I love my boyfriend so much. This simple question stuck in my head and I kept wondering why I love him? I believe there can’t be any reasons to truly love someone. But showing someone how much they mean to you, always brings them closer. Thus, I too sat down and began to jot down 100 reasons why I love my boyfriend. It’s not always the physical part that brings you closer to someone. While compiling the list of 100 reasons why I love him, I found out there is so much to our relationship, that we seem to take for granted. It’s not always the gifts, dates and the large gestures of love, but the small things in our everyday lives that makes a relationship special.

If you can come up with a 100 reasons to love someone, it is a sure shot sign of being in love. There is no specific definition of love. Love just happens. However, not everyone of us is an expert on how to write romantic love letters. So, what do we do to show our love for our boyfriends? Well, begin an amateur writer myself, I have compiled a list of 100 reasons why I love my boyfriend. This is a small way to show my beloved, how much I love him.

100 Reasons Why I Love Him

1. He has taught me the meaning of love.
2. Every time he looks at me my heart skips a beat.
3. For the compliments he gives me.
4. He always makes me feel like a princess.
5. He always puts me before himself.
6. He always says what I need to hear.
7. He always sends I love you messages every hour.
8. He calls me just to say I love you, and how I am.
9. He can read my innermost thoughts.
10. He can tell when something is wrong with me.
11. He can’t be mad at me for a long time.
12. He cares for my pet cat, even though he does not like cats much.
13. He could have anyone he wanted, but he picked me.
14. He does things I like, even if he doesn’t like them
15. He gives me sweet kisses.
16. He gives me that special feeling that no one can give me.
17. He has reachable goals in life.
18. He has silky long hair.
19. He is a God fearing person with strong faith.
20. He is a good sport even when I'm not.
21. He is always happy to see me.
22. He is always interesting, even when we’re not saying anything
23. He is simply irresistible.
24. He is the light in my life, he is the inspiration.
25. He knows all my secrets and knows to keep them safe.
26. He knows how to bring a smile to my face.
27. He likes to do things that make me happy.
28. He likes to try new things.
29. He listens to me.
30. He looks so cute in a suit.
31. He loves me even with all my faults.
32. He makes fun of me and then kisses me.
33. He makes me a better person
34. He makes me feel like the most special girl in the world.
35. He makes the cutest facial expressions.
36. He never gets angry when I talk too much about my favorite hot actor.
37. He never intimidates me.
38. He patiently listens to all my stories, about the things that happened to me through the day.
39. He respects me.
40. He shares his life with me.
41. He stays on the phone for those extra few minutes even though he is busy with his office work.
42. He tells me what is right when I am wrong.
43. He thinks I’m the one.
44. He understands me.
45. He’s always honest to me.
46. He’s passionate.
47. He’s so good looking.
48. He’s the one I can always count on.
49. He's too hot to handle.
50. His charm and charisma.
51. His excellent people skills
52. His eyes, his lips and his silky hair.
53. His patience with me even when I push it to the limit sometimes.
54. His warm smile just makes my heart melt.
55. How he always can make me laugh or smile even at times when I don’t want to.
56. How he can get me out of a bad mood.
57. How he can travel for hours to see me for a day.
58. How he is always concerned about me and my well-being.
59. How he is always understanding with me even when I don’t deserve it.
60. How he makes an effort with my friends.
61. How he rides his bike like an airplane.
62. How he says the cutest things over and over and never gets old.
63. How he spoke to me every day when we were just friends.
64. How much I miss him always.
65. How we both get along so well
66. How we stay up too late talking about nothing.
67. I am always comfortable with him and never awkward.
68. I can ask him a dumb question without feeling dumb.
69. I can be myself when I'm with him.
70. I can spend crazy times with him because he adds the spice to my life.
71. I can tell him anything and he won't be shocked.
72. I enjoy being with him.
73. I know he will be one of the most successful men in the world someday because no one deserves it more than him.
74. I like his name
75. I love to hear his voice over the phone.
76. I love how he calls me baby
77. I love that he demands respect, but isn’t controlling.
78. Just a touch...and I lose my heart all over again.
79. Just glancing at each other from across the room and we know what each other is thinking.
80. The fact that there are endless reasons I can give to answer why I love him.
81. The irritating fact that he is right 90% of the time.
82. The little looks he gives me when we are around family and friends.
83. The way he comforts me when I cry for no reason on the phone
84. The way he forgives me straight away when I do or say something that makes him angry.
85. The way he holds my hands.
86. The way he liven ups a room just by being in it.
87. The way he looks when I get all dressed up
88. The way he show up in my dreams
89. The way he talks
90. The way his arms feel around me
91. The way that he knows how to not take life too seriously and live for the moment
92. The way we plan our future together.
93. The why he pretends he's going to do what I suggest.
94. Thinking of him adds a wonderful touch of love to my every day.
95. We’ve been together for 3 months and I love him so much already
96. When he looks at me and he thinks I am not looking.
97. When he stares into my eyes for ages
98. When we argue about who loves who most.
99. You always find me beautiful, even when I look like a clown.
100. You know the subtle way of wiping my tears and bringing smile to my face.

These were 100 reasons why I love my boyfriend. You too can come up with 100 reasons to love someone. Writing 100 reasons why I love him and giving it to your boyfriend as a gift, will always remain a special gift for him. These 100 reasons to love someone will always make them feel special and remember the special moments shared together. I have done my bit of making my boyfriend know how much I love him, but what are you waiting for? Pick up a pen and paper and write down the 100 reasons why I love you for that special man in your life. I am sure your boyfriend will surely love this sweet romantic gesture of love from you as a gift.

Credits to : http://www.buzzle.com/articles/100reasons-why-i-love-my-boyfriend.html

How to get the guy you want? Hmmm...ever heard, what you see, is what you desire and what you walk towards to make it yours?! It's something like that. Don't you plan your investments, to get the best returns? Don't you save up to buy the house of your dreams? And don't you make lesson plans to top your graduation? The common denominator of all these, is, a plan. If a plan, could make your dreams come true, then what's wrong now? A plan is all that it's going to take, to get the man of your dreams. A little change in the attitude and with a perfect plan, let's get started to answer the question of how to get the guy you want.

Tips on How to Get the Guy You Want

Wish List

The initial stage or the first week of tips on how to get the guy you want, you will need to work on yourself. After all, one always has a price to pay. So, if you want to get a guy who is artistic, sensitive, financially and emotionally secure, spiritual, giving, honest, politically aware and educated, you too will have to put your best foot forward. On a piece of paper, write down your wish list (the kind of man you want to be with) and on the other side, write down, the changes you have to make within yourself. Work on your strengths, good qualities, your attitude and try to incorporate the qualities of your dream man. This way your search will be easier, since, people with similar qualities, will walk up to you, instead of you walking up to them.

Socialize

Socializing is a very important part of how to get the guy you want to fall for you. Stop complaining about, 'there-aren't-any-good-men-around'. If that's the case, then you haven't been looking hard enough. Grilling working hours leave little room for hanging out with friends. But, now that you want the man of your dreams, you've got to make the effort. Tell your friends, that you are interested in meeting men (in accord with the wish list) and the rest will happen on its own. Expand your horizons and you will find a lot of options. Venture out at places to meet singles or places to meet men. The more, the merrier, and so it shall be. Try it out! Read more on how to approach a guy.

Dating

You can never know the depth of the water, without jumping in it. With options galore, take a plunge and start dating. Don't fear getting hurt or losing. The whole charade, of dating someone, making him fall for you, being with someone whom you can talk to, taking things forward, is bliss. And if at all it is to fail, it's always worth an experience. Dress up for someone, visit fine restaurant, sip a fine wine and get some action. If you aren't too sure about your date, then remember, you're just there to have fun. So, forget about blowing it. Have fun!

Great Expectations

Once you start dating, know what to expect from the person, you are dating. You may be looking for your soul mate and future together. But all the idyllic imaginings will come to an end, once the man in the relationship, realizes he wants otherwise. Let your relationship develop naturally with each other, instead of jumping on conclusions and steadfast decisions. Take your time to bond with each other, both, emotionally and physically. The most important part about how to get the guy you want to like you, is to like yourself, when you are around him.

The last part of how to get the guy you want, is to have fun while doing. Men like women, who know how to laugh, those who have a good sense of humor and are participative. By following the tips on how to get the guy you want, you'll surely, find your prince charming. Good luck !

Sweet Things to Say to your Boyfriend

Compliments

Every one loves compliments. So, massage his "male ego" by giving your boyfriend some "genuine" compliments. Say things like "have you been working out?", "that shirt looks super hot on you!", "you are very different from the rest of the guys!, etc. Coming from you, believe me, he will be thrilled at receiving these compliments!

Concern

One of the sweet things to say to your boyfriend is to show him concern. Tell him with your words that you care a lot for him. So, ask him things like, "you had your breakfast today?", "how was your sports class" or simply "how was your day?". One tip here - do not over do it! Do not be so concerned to the point that he starts feeling claustrophobic!

Gratitude

Somewhere inside every man there is a need to be a shining armor for a lady in distress! So, one of the cute things to say to your boyfriend is how thankful you are for him being there for you. So, if he drops you back home after a late night party or listens to your "woos" concerning your parents and friends, thank him for that. Say things like "Thank you so much for being there for me" or "I am so lucky to have you in my life!"

Besides these, you can always say or send him some romantic quotes. So, if you are looking for some cute messages to send to your boyfriend or say him in person, here are some of the best ones:

•When I first saw you I was afraid to talk to you, when I first talked to you I was afraid to like you, when I first liked you I was afraid to love you, now that I love you I'm afraid to lose you.
•Look into my eyes and you'll find me. Look into my heart and you'll find you.
•You are the only one person I want to be with for the rest of my life and grow old with. I love you.
•Late at night when all the world is sleeping, I stay up and think of you. And I wish on a star, that somewhere you are thinking of me too.
•My favorite place to be is inside of your hugs where it's warm and loving. I Love You!
•You are my special friend I love u from the core of my heart, I'll always keep you near.
•You brighten my day with the sound of your voice, you bring so much laughter and love, you are everything to me and I was so blessed when god sent you here for me.
•Genuine love is hard to find because its special and one of a kind. My love for you is true and it surfaced the day I saw you!
•If I could wish for one thing on this planet, I would wish for your lips to touch mine, without a question, without a sound.
•It's hard to find the sweetest thing to say, when I have the sweetest person standing next to me.

When it comes to saying something cute, sweet or nice to your boyfriend, say things that you feel strongly about. Tell him how lucky you are to have him in your life or how your life has changed for the better after meeting him. The more genuine things you say, the more your guy is gonna love you!

By Aastha Dogra

Healthy Relationship Tips for Girls

Though the crux of this write up is to give some suggestions to young girls about how they can conduct themselves when they are in a relationship, there's not much difference between a girl and a woman in love (except may be the age). So they can be treated as general pointers on how to keep your relationship emotionally strong.

Be Friends

Jeremy Taylor, the wise clergyman from Britain once said that "Love is friendship set on fire". I find that this is definitely one of the most revolutionizing quotes that can be taken to heart. When you're in a relationship, there has to be some level of camaraderie between the two of you. Not all of us are fortunate enough to fall in love with a perfect friend, but we can surely see to it that the person we fall in love with is a good friend to us. There exists a very thin line between being a good friend and being a good partner. When the relationship between two friends loses its platonic status for pure love, you know that there can be no better combination of souls than two people who love each other as much as friends, as they do as partners. So be his buddy, involve him in stuff that goes on in your life that he may have an interest in. At the same time, don't overdo it. Don't smother him with your constant presence. Give him the space he needs and you take yours. You must realize that he's with you because he loves you more as a partner than as a friend, so don't ever compromise on that.

Patience is the Key

If there's one tip for women in a relationship that will hold true even if the entire universe came to an end, it is that patience is indeed the key to a healthy and strong relationship. By patience, I don't mean let yourself be taken for granted. Give your relationship a chance. There are women who give up on their men so easily. The minute they see a threatening sign, they throw the towel in and call it quits. The reasons may seem very justified and I'm no one to judge that, but this is for all those girls who think that they've finally found someone who they can consider sharing a life with. It sometimes takes forever to find that perfect fit for your hand, and if you think you've found the hand that fits yours perfectly, don't let it slip out of yours easily. Fight for it, fight with it. Stand by it and stand for it. Don't let petty differences get in the way of something that could very well be the most perfect relationship of your life. So hang in there, through all his antics, and his mood swings, while firmly grounding your position in his life at the same time. There's no way you can lose.

Earn Respect

Respect is something that is grossly underestimated in relationships these days. This comes from people having very easily learned to take their partners for granted. While many may deny it, the truth is that if we take a long hard look at our relationships, we'll realize that there's been at least one point in the relationship when we have taken or been taken for granted. What happens when someone is taken for granted is that he or she begins to fester a resentment towards the partner that manifest itself in other forms. This resentment may be conscious or unconscious, but it does exist. When there is a resentment of any kind brewing in a relationship, there are bound to be problems. All this because one partner did not give the due respect to his or her partner. Mind you, women are not always the victims here, so first take that thought straight out of your mind. If you want to be respected by your guy, the feeling needs to be reciprocated. There's no other way a relationship can survive.

Be There

Another very important relationship tip for women is to remember that their men need their attention as much as they themselves do. For instance, women love it when men send them flowers and cook them a wonderful meal once in a while. If you feel so nice when they do it for you, it's but obvious that they're going to feel just as special when you do something for them. Simple things like a shoulder massage after a hard day at work, not nagging him about the towel on the floor or how he's always late, etc. will go a long way in fortifying your relationship. These are the little things that you can do only after your relationship has reached that level of comfort and understanding. When your guy needs you, be there for him. See things from his perspective once in a while before you pick a fight with him. Arguments are a very important part of a strong relationship, but not to the extent of having one almost everyday. Be his shoulder to cry on like he is yours. A perfect balance of emotional responsibility is one of the saving graces of any relationship.


Love with all your Heart

All the tips mentioned above can simply go for a toss if you don't simply love the guy in your life. Being in a relationship, loving someone and continuing to love the same person for eternity is something that many people are terrified of. If you ask me, this whole 'commitment phobia' is simply overrated. If you have the courage to get involved with someone, then you very well have the courage to see it through to the end. Nothing should stop you from giving all the love in your heart to that one person you want to spend your life with. So, give it your all, love like only you can love, and you'll be surprised by the joy you'll find.

To put it in a nutshell, the most fundamental relationship tips for girls are: be true to him and yourself, be his friend, be there for him when he needs you, respect him and yourself, and love him with all the love in your heart. Contrary to popular belief, it's not complicated!

By Sujata Iyer
Published: 3/18/2011

"If I never met you, I wouldn't like you. If I didn't like you, I wouldn't love you. If I didn't love you, I wouldn't miss you. But I did, I do, and I will."

It is the pain that rips you apart, the feeling of being unloved by the one whom you love with all your heart. So do you love someone who doesn't love you? Well, then you will know the dire, helpless feelings that are associated with a situation where you love someone that you can't have. These feelings are especially aggravated when you know that the person you love is probably the ONE for you. Most of the people hang on with the hope that they can get the other person to love them back and yet these hopes never materialize leaving you distraught and teary eyed. Unrequited love is something that all of us experience and yet it does not always work out the way you want it to. Waiting for the love to be reciprocated can cause a lot of heartache. Difficult as it may sound, the best course of action is to thus, move on with your life.

What To Do When the Person You Love Doesn't Love You Back?

Accept the Reality: When we are in love with someone it feels like he/she is the only person that will make us happy. What we fail to realize is that we can never be happy with the person who will not love us. So even though you might be ready to commit for life, the person you are in love with does not share the same feelings. So instead of sitting around moping away, accept that the love is not mutual and try to move on in life. Do not invest any more time or thought or energy in this person. Acceptance and realization of these facts will allow you to change your focus and take the first steps towards moving on.

Move on: As easy as it may sound, a relationship breakup is probably the most difficult part. Cry your heart out and then start by throwing away any of the photos and mementos that may remind you of the happy times that you spent together. Stay away from places and things that might remind you of him/her. Instead do things that will keep you busy such as spending time with friends, doing the things that you like to do and which make you happy. This will make you stop fantasizing about the person and make you look at other things in life.

Fall in Love: If someone doesn't like you and is still with you then they may not be putting a lot of themselves in the bargain. A willingness to accept little in return while hanging around and moping after someone who isn’t available shows how little you value yourself and your love. Instead stop torturing yourself about how inadequate you are and how great the other person is and move on in life. Pay attention to yourself and do not dwell on unnecessary things. With time you will learn to forget and fall in love again.

The Way You Make Me Feel...

One of the most important reasons why I love you is because of the way you make me feel. Because of you, I am a more confident person today and more loved. You are the reason for my happiness and for my success. Without you, I would be sad, lonely and incomplete. I feel loved and pampered with every single breath that I take. Everyday I wake up to a world where you are my sun and sleep in a world where I await your dreams. There is never a day that you don't make me smile and where happiness doesn't await me in heaps and piles.

Your Support is for Real...

Your support makes me survive the toughest of times. It is because of you that I'm not afraid to take up challenges, however difficult. Just your existence assures me that you will be there to guide me through thick and thin and when times are grim. I know I can overcome all problems, just because you are by my side. Whenever I have faced a path with too many stones to stop me, you've come lifted me way above them all. It's you who gives our relationship the strength it deserves.

With You, There Is Nothing That I Fear...

I am not afraid to break any barriers and run across all lands because I know you would be with me. When I know you're here, there is never a second that I fear. It's you who taught me the magic of faith and belief. I know I can always come back to you, without thinking twice. I love you because you are one person who would take me in no matter what. I love you not because you would die for me but because you taught me how wonderful life could be.

The Love That You Promise is Forever...

I love you because your love promises a certainty of being there.....always. I love you because your love is unconditional and because I know I can always have it. Your love for me comes from within and it comes with a promise to stay forever. I know that even years later I can always say, I still have a crush on you. I know that the enthusiasm and the interest you have now, will never fade away. I know that even ten years later, you will call me and wait for me ten minutes before you promised.

It's With You, I Connect Deepest

I love you because I don't have to speak for you to understand me. You know what's on my mind at times even when I don't. You know when to talk and more importantly, when to just patiently listen. You know when I have a bad day and you know how to make it go away. You know how to say those words that heal and make sense out of anger unreal. I know I have to not say a word, for you thought of them before they were uttered.

These were some reasons why I love my boyfriend. I hope these interested you and that you had a smile on your face right till the end. To be frank, you don't need many reasons to love someone just a great love that you can reciprocate. If you want to tell your boyfriend some more reasons why you love him, you can read more on 100 reasons why I love him truly, madly and deeply.

By Neha Joshi
Published: 3/24/2011

Dating has it's own special fun when you're with the right person. There's always something new to do and something exciting to discover when you're with that special someone. Dating can become quite typical, with dinner or drinks and then a walk back to the girl's apartment as both want to play safe and just want to know each other. But it's not necessary that your other dates are supposed to be formal and official! You can always make them interesting by doing something unique yet fun along with getting to know each other. So, if you're tired of the same routine date, find out what to do on a date and make it exciting and memorable.

Things to Do on a Date

There are millions of ideas for what to do on a date with your partner. You can do adventurous things if you like the rush or simply sit and read books together if both of you are book fans. Scroll down to know the various things you can do when on a date with a guy or a girl. More on fun things to do on a date and dating tips.

What to Do on a Date with a Girl

Girls love to be pampered on their dates. They like the attention they get and so if you're going out on a date with a girl read the following tips. More on dating tips for men.
Be a perfect gentleman throughout your date. Open door, pull chairs, stand up when she leaves the table and don't be rude to the waiters, if you're dinning with her.
Go boating on a cool afternoon and feed the ducks when you're in the center of the lake.
Visit an aquarium and enjoy the dolphin and walrus shows with each other.
If she likes a particular music band, take her out for a concert and book some great seats for the two of you.
Go ice skating if she enjoys figure skating.
Dancing can also be one of the exciting answers for what to do on a date, as both of you can enjoy learning something new and spend time getting to know each other.
If your date loves to travel, take her out for the weekend to some tourist attraction near your city.
Visit a history or art museum as women find them interesting.

How to Know When You Are In Love - Love Takes Six Months to Develop in a New Relationship

Are you thinking of saying "I love you" to someone? Love takes time and using the "L" word too
early can be dangerous. If you want relationship advice on how to say this to someone, you may want to consider looking for some key signs first. Some say that love takes six months in a new relationship to fully form. I would say that this can be good advice as long as you do not treat love as blind. Often we mistake passion for love and overlook important warning signs such as family issues, dating history, or our own eagerness. If you are looking for a solid relationship, consider these factors before saying, "I love you".

First, ask yourself if she is high maintenance. For example, if dating her involves a lot of drama, it's a sign of neediness that tends towards destructive relationships. She may enjoy the drama and need a lot of attention. A lot of times, someone who experiences strong emotional highs can easily switch to strong negative feelings in a heartbeat. If she complains a lot about past friends or ex boyfriends, this may be a warning sign. Most healthy adults do not have a ton of burnt bridges. In fact, being a bad breaker upper often says something about her conflict resolution skills.

Secondly, you need to look at your argument history. For beginners, have you had a fight? Believe it or not, if you've been dating for a few months and have never had a fight, it's a bad sign. Often this means that you don't communicate to each other or are bottling up bad feelings when they happen. If you haven't seen her at her worst, then you don't know her that well. To be sure, it's also hard to sustain an ongoing intimate relationship if you are fighting all the time, so you do want a balance.

More importantly, you want to know how you each behave when you are in a fight. For example, it's a bad sign if you use a lot of "all or nothing" language with each other and are very accusative. On the other hand, its a positive sign if she tries to understand both sides or acknowledges when she is being a little irrational. This tells you a lot about how compatible you are with each other. Finally, how do your fights end? Do you get some sort of resolution or do you just stay resentful? If its the latter or if you just distract the fight with sex, you may be holding on to a ticking time bomb.

Finally, pay attention to what her other relationships are like. For example, does she have a lot of family issues? Similarly, how does she treat her friends? Seeing how she treats her friends and family shows you how she treats those who are close to her. Keep in mind, if she treats them poorly or talks behind their backs, she probably will do the same to you. Happy people show respect to others. Finally, ask what her friends and family are like. Experts say that we take on qualities of the five people we hang out with the most. If you don't like her closest friends, consider getting to know her longer before you say "I love you." Plus if this relationship leads to marriage, they will be around for a long time.

If you follow these steps, you will know when to say to your special girl, "I love you".

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Be the Love You Are Looking For

Are you looking for love? Do you want someone to find you attractive, to like your personality, to enjoy talking with you, to have a good time doing activities with you and to miss you when you are not there?

Do you want someone to love you and care about you, nurture you, take care of you and devote their life to pleasing you?

Don't we all want that? Who wouldn't want someone else to think you are beautiful or handsome, to love your personality, to enjoy your conversations, to enjoy spending time with you and to long to be with you? But there is an important piece missing when we expect this to come from outside of our own self.

That piece is confidence, self-esteem, self-regard, self-acknowledgment and self-love. Put this piece into your life and you will not have to worry ever again about finding love. People will want to be with you. People will want to discover what you have that they are missing. People will naturally be drawn to you and like you and want to spend time with you.

Focus on your own self. Give to yourself whatever it is you would love to receive from someone else. Just doing that will take the burden off your most intimate partners. If they cannot provide you with the affection, kind words, understanding and love that you crave, the more you demand it and expect it from them, the less you will receive. The more you want to receive it from that other person, the more you will feel deprived and needy and inadequate.
Take your attention off the other person. Bring your awareness back to yourself, your thoughts, your emotions, your desires, your beliefs. Discover what is underneath your emotion when you feel upset because someone else is not providing for you in the way you think you need in this moment. Pay attention to your own personal responses all the time.

The more you are able to step back, self-reflect, and give your partner room to express his or her self, the more love you allow to blossom and grow between you. It is often not easy because love brings up anything unlike itself for the purpose of healing and release. So your beloved partner may act cold, angry, unloving, indifferent and you may become resentful, hurting and even depressed. Stop, self-reflect, examine your feelings and what is underneath your feelings, and what is underneath that. Then, when you have explored your own internal life more clearly, offer yourself all the love you wish this other person would provide for you.

Then, coming from a state of abundant and overflowing love, discover what your partner wants and needs in the moment. As you provide love from an overflowing state, you can express, gently, calmly and without expectation, the way you would like to feel with this person. Becoming the love you are looking for if a long term process of letting go, letting be, and allowing love to unfold.
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Dictionaries have different meanings for this word. But when I think about this word, my mind conjures up images of all kinds of beautiful things that I have always associated with this word. Flowers, chocolates, candle light dinners, hearts, soft toys, clothes and perfumes, (I hope I haven’t left anything out!) these are the words that have become synonymous with love…but, what about the feelings and emotions associated with this word!

I remember growing up with stars in my eyes and love songs ringing through my ears. Slowly my dreams grew bigger and I started waiting for my Prince Charming to come along and take me with him to a beautiful land where we would be surrounded by servants, good clothes, flowers and jewelry. One day I realized the truth about love...that it was much more than material comforts and gains.

Love is Sharing

Believe me when I say that this is one of the most important ingredients of love. It is important to open ones heart and share – pain, joy, success and failure, it really does not matter, as long as the heart is clear. Love is being honest and knowing that the other person feels the same way too, it is sharing and losing ones inhibitions and knowing that the person on the other side will never be judgmental.

Love is Talking

Yes, love is talking. It is about speaking, telling and sharing. After some time people restrict their conversations to discussing bills, children and pets. This is a sure indicator of things going down hill. Bring the spark back by starting a conversation.

Love is Spending Time Together

A few minutes spent together everyday keeps the boredom away. I just made this up right now, but it is because I feel there is nothing like time invested in a relationship…believe me, it pays! Heavy work schedules take up much time and effort, so it is important to get things into perspective.

Love is Faithfulness

To love means to be true, to love unconditionally means to give with all your heart to one, and only one. Love is when you realize that he/she is the best thing that has happened to you and you want to cherish that person and the moments spent with him/her till death do you part.
Love is Being Friends

Love is being friends with each other. Enjoying simple pleasures in life like shopping, catching a movie or watching television at home, apart from a host of other things that "Friends" normally do!

Love is Looking Together in the Same Direction

This may sound clichéd, but it is true…love is having the same goals and taking steps in that direction to make them come true.

I would like to end with one of my favorite quotations…

"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly
and without law, and must be plucked where it is found,
and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration."
- D. H. Lawrence

By Rachna Gupta